Do Writers Talk to Each Other?

Most of the people I’m connected with on the internet are writers: Best-selling novelists, bloggers with heavy clout, and budding new writers.Sometimes I wonder, do the authors and bloggers I follow on twitter know each other? I mean, really know each other.

Do they talk? Do they invite each other out for tea or sex or housewarming parties?

I think it’s more likely that they can’t stand each other – too much jealousy, or popularity issues, and the desire to distance yourself from so-and-so because “he’s not a real horror writer, he just writes really long chapters about murders.” Do they scoff when they read each others’ works, or do they raise their eyebrows and say, “ah, I had never thought of that”?

I like to think that two of my favorite living authors, Stephen King and Neil Gaimann belong in the latter category. They share so many followers in common and they follow each other.

I used this same tool to better understand some of the connections a few people from two of my previous posts (K.M. Weiland and The Creative Penn).

Both writers, both advocates of the craft (in their own way) and yet, both have completely different sets of followers. Well, almost completely. One of the bridges between these two is Jon Winokur’s Advice to Writers.

Check out his blog, and don’t forget to like, comment and follow this one! Don’t know what to say? Tell me what you think other writers say to each other!

Anyway, back to Tweeting. Twittering? What do you call it when you’re just there to read?

Photo by Pedro Ribeiro Simões

13 thoughts on “Do Writers Talk to Each Other?

  1. as for me?? i’m a solitary man … i tried a writers group but this is senior citizen territory and i had nothing in common with them … so … i’m a hypocrite … i spend hours writing each day … and i’m one of those people who say, “I’m too busy blah blah .. (relating to their writing) to do whatever … but it’s true … i ‘indulge’ myself with my passion … so … my thoughts are valid … call me whatever you want .,. i AM a hypocrite but my words and thoughts are still true i think. ks

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    1. I’d be surprised if you could point to anyone on Earth and say there goes a human who has never been a hypocrite.

      Desire for solitude is one of the most common traits of writers, I find, so you are in good company Kurt.


  2. i have a friend who is an artist … a photographer .,.. who in art school (MFA) was totally immersed socially with other artists and they constantly talked art .,.., it was mind expanding and many of her fellow artists became friends for life … they still call each other with problems thoughts or whatever … she constantly harps on me to join writers groups of any kind that i can find even if i have to drive an hour to get there .,. . her thought is that sooner or later i will find one or more people who i can really connect with and the relationship will yield great returns … as it did with her. she refers to hemingway and all the greats meeting at the cafes in paris who spent long hours discussing their craft … the point i make here is .,.., the thought of talking with other writers has taken on a new meaning … today it implies having a relationship on line which , i suppose is better than nothing and can involve a far wider circle of people to glean knowledge from but .. can anything replace the prior method … face to face discussion with one or two or three people who share the same passions … ? i not saying using social media is ”bad” … but i do think that the intimacy and subtle nuance and instantaneous response to ideas is invaluable experience if you are lucky enough to find people who as passionate as yourself. it’s so much easier to find people in the blogosphere or wherever … but the yield isn’t as great … it’s much harder to find like minded people … you have to mine for the gold a little harder but when you finally find it … it’s worth all the work … ks

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    1. Hemingway’s relationship with other writers was indeed one of the inspirations for this post.

      I think finding that relationship must be one in a million, if not more, especially in this age of instant gratification.

      I don’t doubt the value of face to face interactions with other writers (it’s something I crave and actively seek), but there must be something to say for social media. In my mind, the long, non-instant, thought-out responses allow us to lend a more clinical, but critical tone to our discussions about our craft.

      And, as you say, it’s much easier to find like-minded people while we blog, or tweet, or whatever we do.


  3. Hello Hoffman! This is a very important subject. Since I started blogging I have met some of the most loving people I’ve ever met. But once I got someone who was rather hard on me. Well, I made a mistake because I read a brilliant post by a guest she had interviewed and I started asking the guest to back me up somehow. Honestly I did it naively without knowing I was hurting the owner of the blog. She fired at me and I had to apologize. It ended there. I had no ill feelings. I do not know if she nursed any. I think on the net we should be gentle to each other. There are billions of people on the surface of the earth and if you have some of them following you I will have some following me. I believe in working in harmony. By the way one of my blogs is promoting an excellent world. A world of love and harmony not a world of rivalry. I just pray that writers should be the light for the rest of the world.

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    1. Ah, the dangers of the internet are diverse and difficult to predict. I am sorry for your folly, but I’m glad you learned something from it!

      Some authors are certainly lights, but not everybody sees light the same way.

      I am sure I agree with most of what you said, though.

      Thank you for the comment, and may you find many more writers who agree with your vision of harmony!


      1. Many thanks. Your words are encouraging. I have learned to learn from my mistakes. The problem is not with falling but with falling and not getting up to continue the journey. I always thank those who correct me even those who do it in a hard way. Your wish for my vision is a great joy to me. May I wish you equal success in your endeavors!

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  4. Well hello there! You “liked” a friend’s blog post, and so I came to check out your blog. I was not at all disappointed! I don’t know what the habits of most authors are. But I know that two of my very favourite authors actually had a group that they’d get together with to share pieces, feedback, and just enjoy an evening with. J.R.R. Tolkien and C.S. Lewis shared many an idea. Unfortunately they shared so many that they did eventually become distant for quite a while. But they never completely severed friendship. And, I don’t doubt that each of them produced much better work because they sharpened one another: Proverbs 27:17. Anyway, thanks for sharing your thoughts. This looks like an interesting blog, interestingly written… so I’ll be back.

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    1. I’m glad you enjoy the blog, thanks for stopping by Mark Anthony.

      And yes! Writing groups are a huge deal with many writers! I don’t know how I could have forgotten to mention that… I wish I knew more contemporary authors who participated in writing groups. I haven’t heard of many duos pumping out great novels lately.


  5. I think the majority of people (writers or not) deep down inside/in some way have respect for those they cannot stand to be around with. Like respect for your (worthy) opponent or something like that. Of course in every rule there is an exception, but I believe that once somebody evokes any kind of feelings from someone, there must be some connection there somewhere or otherwise you will not acknowledge the existence of such person. And if I am not making any sense, blame it on the lack of sleep. I promise I will do better next time.

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    1. Ha! You’re fine. So do they see other writers as (potential) opponents then?

      I’ve always been curious if most writers suffer from inflated egos, but I hope you are right. I hope they respect each other.


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